September 29, 2010

Every Little Thing IS Alright

It’s been a while; I know. Funny how easy it is to rant and rave and complain and vent and gripe and share your woes, but when asked to jot down a few positive thoughts I can’t seem to make the time. I am more than happy to stay up untill midnight scribing a venomous rant about the Tea Party, but can’t seem to carve out five minutes to say life is good. Life is more than good; life is great. All systems go. Living as I should be.

I was gently reminded that however small, I have finally after three years created a small loyal audience here at my blog. Comments like the one below do wonders for ones self-esteemed, especially when said self-esteem is unhealthy wrapped up in need for attention and validation, but I digress.

This post was meant to be a quick pop in to say:

I am happy. I feel physically good and comfortable in my skin. Work is going well, and I finally feel like I am on the right track now that I am back in the classroom. (Spent the first few weeks setting up the program) I am doing cool things with technology and my students are responding and performing well.

My own kids are amazing. Skyelar is almost one and really becoming her own person. She growls when annoyed, but otherwise she is usually all smiles. She is a few weeks, maybe days away from walking and babbles non-stop. She is an eating machine who devours blue berries by the bushel. Kaia, well she is Kaia. Her tantrums and irritability have died down a bit and she is usually quite pleasant. She counts and sings in Bahasa and Chinese. It amazes me how big she is getting. Sometimes I can’t believe how much of a little girl she has become. She is no longer a baby or a toddler. She has entered girlhood for sure and this excites me to no end.

See this post doesn’t feel right! Who cares about these things? Why would anyone read about this mundane contentment? But I guess it does a body good to sometimes just step back and say, “My life is running pretty smoothly at the moment." Maybe when it derails and I fall back off, I could look to these times, to these posts and see what was going right. After all aren't these fleeting moments of joy the very thing we search for our entire lives?

So what is going right? I am simply living day-to-day and trying to do the best I can and enjoying the little things. I am working hard on a variety of projects: book, blogging, mentoring, etc…and I am trying to be as involved as I can with my family even though I am often exhausted. There is a trip to Singapore in my future and time is moving at a comfortable pace. Not to slow and not too fast.

I was going to delete this post, but thought what the hell…the positive vibe might help some one out there. Hope it holds you over until I can piece together something a bit more substantial.

On second thought, let's not discount this post altogether, maybe we can turn this into a conversation. What are the little things that keep you happy? The things that help you feel like things are alright? What are the little things that you cherish? And why do you forget them when life gets tricky?

6 comments:

  1. Great to know that life is treating you well right now Jabiz. It's important to take time to appreciate what's going well, as it is too easy to focus on what's not…

    A teacher-mentor of mine used this analogy that has stayed with me for years. He drew a square on a sheet of paper, then put a dot in the middle. He then asked me what I saw.

    I told him there was a square with a dot in it.

    He said, "Yeah, but what about all that white space in the square? There is far more white space in the square than there are dots, yet the dot is all you see."

    I put up the square with the dot in my classroom (and most since) to remind me of what's important.

    Here are some moments I cherish right now:

    * When teachers tell me they want to take my daughter home and keep her, because she's so lovely.
    * When my son furrows his brows in concentration as he tells me something overwhelmingly important to him.
    * Going out for a good old catch up with my girlfriends and being able to pick up where we left off last time
    * Making a difference to someone, especially with technology
    * Being able to have a lovely helper as a part of our family
    * Getting a lovely note from a child or parent
    * Noticing even more the small, thoughtful things my husband does for me everyday, because he's away on camp right now.

    Life is pretty darned good.

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  2. Gabe Archer11:01 PM

    You are a bit of an inspiration to me because I knew you back when and you have grown up into such a caring father. I do hear a lot of opinions from you that have to do with something that you don't like but, I also hear about your family and how much love them.
    As for whats going right for me. I have a great job that challenges me, I have a loving wife that also challenges me( I guess I have a lot of challenges). But, the biggest thing is that me and my wife are expecting our first child. It has me thinking on a whole new level. This may be the best time in my life so far.

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  3. Hey, Buddy,

    Real life, real contentment, real happiness, is what happens in one's daily life. And it's You who DO what you DO with your attention, your attitude, your actions, every moment of the day that determines the degree of your success and happiness each day. Sounds like you are taking good care of yourself (your attention, your choices) every day, so you can have a "Life that is pretty darned good" You didn't win the lottery, you know. You are creating your good life. Register YOUR success, and keep creating "the good life" for yourself, for your family, and for your students, and as an inspiration for your readers.

    Tom

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  4. Anonymous10:59 AM

    What's your favorite part about leading an international life? Do you feel like you have roots anywhere? Why teach abroad and not in the States?

    Are these answers posted elsewhere and I just need to search?

    Also, what's the meaning of life?

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  5. @gabe Thanks for reading and staying in touch Gabe, I love that we are rekindling all the great conversations we used to have on the internet now. I miss you and congrats on the baby. Your life will change dramatically, but you will understand yourself better than you ever have and will understand true love for the first time ever. Having is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

    @Tom. Thanks you make some great points.

    @Anon. I will make it quick and try to write on the subject soon:

    What's your favorite part about leading an international life?

    There is so much to see and do in the world, I don't want to miss it. I love the feeling of going to new places and seeing how people are different and the same. As a third culture kid I feel more comfortable being the outsider and finding my way around a strange place.


    Do you feel like you have roots anywhere?

    My roots are in the earth. As corny as that sounds, I like to be flexible and able to fit in anywhere I go. I guess San Francisco is home and I have a very close relationship to that place. It will always be "home." But it is enough for me to visit.

    Why teach abroad and not in the States? Adventure. With the United States on the verge of imploding, I sometimes think that it would be great to go home, teach in a high needs school, joining some political parties, run for office etc...but for now I am exploring and seeing the world. I get enough America out here I can't handle any more from the inside.

    Are these answers posted elsewhere and I just need to search? No But maybe they should be thank. Will be in the book. Stay tuned.

    Also, what's the meaning of life?

    If you need to ask you are not ready for the answer.

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  6. @gabe Thanks for reading and staying in touch Gabe, I love that we are rekindling all the great conversations we used to have on the internet now. I miss you and congrats on the baby. Your life will change dramatically, but you will understand yourself better than you ever have and will understand true love for the first time ever. Having is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

    @Tom. Thanks you make some great points.

    @Anon. I will make it quick and try to write on the subject soon:

    What's your favorite part about leading an international life?

    There is so much to see and do in the world, I don't want to miss it. I love the feeling of going to new places and seeing how people are different and the same. As a third culture kid I feel more comfortable being the outsider and finding my way around a strange place.


    Do you feel like you have roots anywhere?

    My roots are in the earth. As corny as that sounds, I like to be flexible and able to fit in anywhere I go. I guess San Francisco is home and I have a very close relationship to that place. It will always be "home." But it is enough for me to visit.

    Why teach abroad and not in the States? Adventure. With the United States on the verge of imploding, I sometimes think that it would be great to go home, teach in a high needs school, joining some political parties, run for office etc...but for now I am exploring and seeing the world. I get enough America out here I can't handle any more from the inside.

    Are these answers posted elsewhere and I just need to search? No But maybe they should be thank. Will be in the book. Stay tuned.

    Also, what's the meaning of life?

    If you need to ask you are not ready for the answer.

    ReplyDelete